Celebrating Strengths
Challenge:
The act of focusing on your partner’s limitations can become quite habit-forming. In addition to the hazard of distracting you from self-examination, the habit of “fault-finding” in others will lead to a distorted perception of who your partner is. If your focus is on your partner’s faults, then that is what you will see. You will not see your partner’s strengths or be able to enjoy them.
Reflection:
Your partner’s strengths may be difficult to see when the relationship is in conflict. During times of conflict we tend to focus on the vulnerabilities of others. In order to focus on strengths, you must be willing to drop your defenses and become more vulnerable. It is infinitely more important to celebrate your partner’s strengths during difficult times than it is to protect yourself. Look for strengths in what your partner chooses not to do or say. Look for strengths in what your partner has contributed to your life. Look for your partner’s strengths in the strategies being employed to defend themselves from your control.
Prayer:
God, help me to see the strength in others. My focus on their shortcomings will pull me away from you.
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