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Free Community Workshop Series!
Leadem Counseling is launching 3 free community workshop series in central New Jersey. Each series will seek to address one facet of addiction ranging from how to promote sober parenting in your home, to debunking the myths surrounding relapse, to learning how best to intervene on a loved one who is struggling with addiction and remains in denial. These workshops are open to all who would like to attend, so if you can personally relate to one of the above focal points, are a concerned loved one, a community or religious leader, or a therapist looking to learn more- you are welcome. We hope to see you there!
Series #1: Sober Parenting
To Our Children
This workshop series is designed to assist participants in developing a “Sober Family Commonwealth” in which all the members contribute to the wealth and derive benefits from it. Participants will develop a deeper appreciation of the ways in which their children may be negatively impacted by untreated parental addiction or the conflicts of early recovery. The talks will highlight strategies for guiding your children through the behavioral and emotional challenges that they are facing as a result of the emotionally challenging environment they have been
This workshop series is designed to assist participants in developing a “Sober Family Commonwealth” in which all the members contribute to the wealth and derive benefits from it. Participants will develop a deeper appreciation of the ways in which their children may be negatively impacted by untreated parental addiction or the conflicts of early recovery. The talks will highlight strategies for guiding your children through the behavioral and emotional challenges that they are facing as a result of the emotionally challenging environment they have been
This workshop series is designed to assist participants in developing a "Sober Family Commonwealth" in which all the members contribute to the wealth and derive benefits from it. Participants will develop a deeper appreciation of the ways in which their children may be negatively impacted by untreated parental addiction or the contlicts of early recovery. The talks will highlight strategies for guiding your children
ehavioral and emotional challenges that they are facing as a result of the emotionally challenging environment they have been immersed in. It is hoped that recovering parents can build a family bond that will be viewed by their children as being more durable and sustaining then the lure of the street corner.
Promoting Safety & Security For Our Children
Active addiction can and does have a profound impact on the development of children who are exposed to the disease early on. Oftentimes, as parents enter recovery and begin to acknowledge the cost the active addiction has had on the entire family system, it can be daunting to know how they can begin to enhance security and promote healing for their children. In this workshop, participants will be introduced to tools they can use to support their children by creating consistent, predictable environments where new family dynamics and rule expectations can be established.
Active addiction can and does have a profound impact on the development of children who are exposed to the disease early on. Oftentimes, as parents enter recovery and begin to acknowledge the cost the active addiction has had on the entire family system, it can be daunting to know how they can begin to enhance security and promote healing for their children. In this workshop, participants will be introduced to tools they can use to support their children by creating consistent, predictable environments where new family dynamics and rule expectations can be established.
Active addiction can and does have a profound impact on the development of children who are exposed to the disease early on. Oftentimes, as parents enter recovery and begin to acknowledge the cost the active addiction has had on the entire family system, it can be daunting to know how they can begin to enhance security and promote healing for their children. In this workshop, participants will be introduced to tools they can use to support their children by creating consistent, predictable environments where new family dynamics and rule expectations can be established.
Diminishing The Lure Of The Street For Our Adolescents
The proclamation, “When I grow up, I will raise my family differently”, has been said by countless children who have been deeply impacted by active addiction or other mental health challenges in their home. Far too often, these children grow up to find that not only have they failed to keep their childhood promise, they had also come to struggle in the same way their caregivers did, which they resented. If this is to occur, it often begins during adolescents where their attempts to cope with the pain they have endured is no longer sufficient and a more powerful solution to ease the discomfort is sought. In this workshop, participants will be introduced to tools they can use that will help the adolescents in their lives, cease to look for the solution in the streets.
The proclamation, “When I grow up, I will raise my family differently”, has been said by countless children who have been deeply impacted by active addiction or other mental health challenges in their home. Far too often, these children grow up to find that not only have they failed to keep their childhood promise, they had also come to struggle in the same way their caregivers did, which they resented. If this is to occur, it often begins during adolescents where their attempts to cope with the pain they have endured is no longer sufficient and a more powerful solution to ease the discomfort is sought. In this workshop, participants will be introduced to tools they can use that will help the adolescents in their lives, cease to look for the solution in the streets.
The proclamation, “When I grow up, I will raise my family differently”, has been said by countless children who have been deeply impacted by active addiction or other mental health challenges in their home. Far too often, these children grow up to find that not only have they failed to keep their childhood promise, they had also come to struggle in the same way their caregivers did, which they resented. If this is to occur, it often begins during adolescents where their attempts to cope with the pain they have endured is no longer sufficient and a more powerful solution to ease the discomfort is sought. In this workshop, participants will be introduced to tools they can use that will help the adolescents in their lives, cease to look for the solution in the streets.
Adult Children Need Partnership Rather Then Direction
It is true, that once a parent always a parent. As a parent in recovery though, it is important to pause and reflect on the wisdom the 7th Tradition of Alcoholics Anonymous could offer parents who are concerned about how their adult children are coping now that they are on their own. Perhaps rather than promoting to their children, the benefits of sober living, they may be better served if, as parents, they seek to be a source of attraction by sharing their journey of sober living with them. In this workshop, participants will learn tools to help their adult children address the lasting impact that early exposure to active addiction and early recovery have had on them.
It is true, that once a parent always a parent. As a parent in recovery though, it is important to pause and reflect on the wisdom the 7th Tradition of Alcoholics Anonymous could offer parents who are concerned about how their adult children are coping now that they are on their own. Perhaps rather than promoting to their children, the benefits of sober living, they may be better served if, as parents, they seek to be a source of attraction by sharing their journey of sober living with them. In this workshop, participants will learn tools to help their adult children address the lasting impact that early exposure to active addiction and early recovery have had on them.
It is true, that once a parent always a parent. As a parent in recovery though, it is important to pause and reflect on the wisdom the 7th Tradition of Alcoholics Anonymous could offer parents who are concerned about how their adult children are coping now that they are on their own. Perhaps rather than promoting to their children, the benefits of sober living, they may be better served if, as parents, they seek to be a source of attraction by sharing their journey of sober living with them. In this workshop, participants will learn tools to help their adult children address the lasting impact that early exposure to active addiction and early recovery have had on them.
Series #2: Debunking the Myths About Relapse
If you have experienced any of the consequences of an addictive illness, then you have known pain. Addiction hurts whether you are the addict, or one of the victims close to the epicenter of the addictive disorder such as a spouse, a family member, an employer, or spiritual advisor. In fact, the costs of untreated addiction impact us at every level of society, and while we invest a great deal of emotional and financial resources collectively, there is still much we could do to arrest the destructive cycle of relapse. To do so, we would need to collectively do more, as a community, to challenge the pervasive myths surrounding relapse that undermine our efforts to join alongside those seeking lasting, long-term sobriety. In this series we will work to debunk some of the more potent myths surrounding relapse in an effort to impart hope in those who have come to accept relapse as an expected, unavoidable part of their lives.
If you have experienced any of the consequences of an addictive illness, then you have known pain. Addiction hurts whether you are the addict, or one of the victims close to the epicenter of the addictive disorder such as a spouse, a family member, an employer, or spiritual advisor. In fact, the costs of untreated addiction impact us at every level of society, and while we invest a great deal of emotional and financial resources collectively, there is still much we could do to arrest the destructive cycle of relapse. To do so, we would need to collectively do more, as a community, to challenge the pervasive myths surrounding relapse that undermine our efforts to join alongside those seeking lasting, long-term sobriety. In this series we will work to debunk some of the more potent myths surrounding relapse in an effort to impart hope in those who have come to accept relapse as an expected, unavoidable part of their lives.
If you have experienced any of the consequences of an addictive illness, then you have known pain. Addiction hurts whether you are the addict, or one of the victims close to the epicenter of the addictive disorder such as a spouse, a family member, an employer, or spiritual advisor. In fact, the costs of untreated addiction impact us at every level of society, and while we invest a great deal of emotional and financial resources collectively, there is still much we could do to arrest the destructive cycle of relapse. To do so, we would need to collectively do more, as a community, to challenge the pervasive myths surrounding relapse that undermine our efforts to join alongside those seeking lasting, long-term sobriety. In this series we will work to debunk some of the more potent myths surrounding relapse in an effort to impart hope in those who have come to accept relapse as an expected, unavoidable part of their lives.
Relapse Is Not A Part Of Recovery
Active addiction can and does have a profound impact on the development of children who are exposed to the disease early on. Oftentimes, as parents enter recovery and begin to acknowledge the cost the active addiction has had on the entire family system, it can be daunting to know how they can begin to enhance security and promote healing for their children. In this workshop, participants will be introduced to tools they can use to support their children by creating consistent, predictable environments where new family dynamics and rule expectations can be established.
Active addiction can and does have a profound impact on the development of children who are exposed to the disease early on. Oftentimes, as parents enter recovery and begin to acknowledge the cost the active addiction has had on the entire family system, it can be daunting to know how they can begin to enhance security and promote healing for their children. In this workshop, participants will be introduced to tools they can use to support their children by creating consistent, predictable environments where new family dynamics and rule expectations can be established.
It can be painful to have had a taste of what it feels like to have a week, a month, or even 90 days of abstinence, only to return to your drug of choice again. It can be just as painful to witness the relapse as a loved one, a therapist or sponsor. With each relapse, it becomes more difficult to maintain hope. When hope fades, it is easy to see how any of us at the epicenter of the relapse would look for some rationalization that might help ease the pain or cling to hope. However, it is only false hope to think that relapse is an expected part of recovery. In this workshop, participants will learn of the dangers this false hope brings, and what tools they could use to challenge this myth and reclaim true hope.
Relapse Is A Process - Not An Event
The proclamation, “When I grow up, I will raise my family differently”, has been said by countless children who have been deeply impacted by active addiction or other mental health challenges in their home. Far too often, these children grow up to find that not only have they failed to keep their childhood promise, they had also come to struggle in the same way their caregivers did, which they resented. If this is to occur, it often begins during adolescents where their attempts to cope with the pain they have endured is no longer sufficient and a more powerful solution to ease the discomfort is sought. In this workshop, participants will be introduced to tools they can use that will help the adolescents in their lives, cease to look for the solution in the streets.
The proclamation, “When I grow up, I will raise my family differently”, has been said by countless children who have been deeply impacted by active addiction or other mental health challenges in their home. Far too often, these children grow up to find that not only have they failed to keep their childhood promise, they had also come to struggle in the same way their caregivers did, which they resented. If this is to occur, it often begins during adolescents where their attempts to cope with the pain they have endured is no longer sufficient and a more powerful solution to ease the discomfort is sought. In this workshop, participants will be introduced to tools they can use that will help the adolescents in their lives, cease to look for the solution in the streets.
If you've known someone struggling to maintain abstinence, you’ve likely heard them say something akin to, “I just lost my sobriety, and I do not know what happened”. To be clear, an addict cannot lose their sobriety like one can lose their car keys. This is a myth, but it is possible for an addict to surrender their sobriety. Understanding why one would relapse, after they began experiencing the benefits of sobriety, requires a look at how they were attempting to cope with the discomfort in their life. With enough failed attempts at seeking a solution, one will simply conclude that there is only one solution left – a return to their drug of choice. This workshop will explore the damage caused by this myth and demonstrate that relapse is a process that can be identified and intervened upon.
Another's Relapse Is Their Business
It is true, that once a parent always a parent. As a parent in recovery though, it is important to pause and reflect on the wisdom the 7th Tradition of Alcoholics Anonymous could offer parents who are concerned about how their adult children are coping now that they are on their own. Perhaps rather than promoting to their children, the benefits of sober living, they may be better served if, as parents, they seek to be a source of attraction by sharing their journey of sober living with them. In this workshop, participants will learn tools to help their adult children address the lasting impact that early exposure to active addiction and early recovery have had on them.
It is true, that once a parent always a parent. As a parent in recovery though, it is important to pause and reflect on the wisdom the 7th Tradition of Alcoholics Anonymous could offer parents who are concerned about how their adult children are coping now that they are on their own. Perhaps rather than promoting to their children, the benefits of sober living, they may be better served if, as parents, they seek to be a source of attraction by sharing their journey of sober living with them. In this workshop, participants will learn tools to help their adult children address the lasting impact that early exposure to active addiction and early recovery have had on them.
In business, if one bears a portion of the business’ operating expenses, is it not true that they will likely have some say in how the business is to run? Why then, are we expected to mind our own business if someone who we care about is heading toward a relapse? If you have been in the epicenter of one’s relapse, you have endured some of the cost of the relapse. If you then say or do nothing, you are at great risk for compounding the initial injury of the relapse by betraying yourself. These consequences, and perhaps the relapses themselves, could be more frequently prevented if we collectively were to heed the wisdom in the line, “I get drunk, and we get sober”. In this workshop, participants will explore both the challenges, as well as the value, in making it their business to lovingly show up when they are concerned about those they care about who appear to be heading toward a relapse.
Therapeutic Addiction Interventions
Effective Interventions Are Where All Involved Hit Bottom
The idea that no one can help an addicted person until he or she hits rock bottom is a notion that has been around since man learned how to ferment beer. One would suspect that the author of the “rock bottom” model must have been a concerned family member who hit a stone wall trying a single handed intervention on a loved one who was an active alcoholic. You can almost hear some desperate wife saying, “Why can’t he see what he is doing to himself. I don’t know how much longer he and the rest of the family can suffer”. It is expected that once the requisite amount of pain has been endured, the user will have a spontaneous moment of clarity and personal motivation to get and remain sober. The reality is that many addicted people will die before they can see or feel what those around them have known for some time. This workshop will provide the participants with another way to see reality where all involved in seeking change for the addicted individual also seek change themselves.